It was one of those mornings when everything and everyone was clicking. In my world that meant both kids got up (out of the bed in a semi-conscious state) and got ready in time. Plus, we had milk in the fridge, gas in the car and coffee was brewing. Even better, it was valentine’s day so I placed little candy goodies on the table for the kids complete with festive decor and construction paper hearts. (I never get to use construction paper anymore since the kids are older. I felt deprived and needed to use the stash of it I still have in the closet.)
The kids were excited when they saw their goodies and sang my praises as the best mom ever. Ok, that last part only happened in my head but they were happy, nonetheless. And then I announced we were going to the dentist instead of school. Even then, things were still going well as the little darlings realized they would be missing first period and maybe part of second. They were already texting their friends as we walked out the door. Evidently missing class is enviable among their friends even if it means a trip to the dentist.
As the kids were nestled in the chairs with their respective dental hygienists, I bounced from room to room checking on them, looking at x-rays and making small talk about them since neither could speak.
“Yes, she’s 15 now and beautiful. We’ve already bought the security system…Yes I know he’s getting big. He played football this year.”
And then… I got irritated. Shocking, I know.
The sweet hygienist began to ask me if I’d found a job yet. When I replied that I was still looking, she mentioned that at least my house must be spotless. She must not have noticed the color draining from my face and added that I must be getting lots of projects done and my family had to be eating yummy gourmet meals seven days a week. Um…. Not exactly.
I mumbled some sort of reply about the importance of a crock pot, the sanitary condition of my home and the fact that completed projects were overrated. I did feel compelled to add that my children were quite involved in school activities and sports. I even listed the community and church groups we supported. I suppose showing her my weekly calendar to prove I had wisely allocated time and resources to lots of worthy causes was overkill, but by then I was quickly spiraling out of control. Visions of self burning midnight oil to complete every project on mental “to do” list suddenly filled my mind. I suddenly longed for my cape which I left at home in the closet. At a time like this! Grrr.
When sweet girlie asked if we could go to Chick Fil A across town for breakfast versus Dunkin Donuts, I flipped out.
“No! I can’t waste a minute getting you to school. I must accomplish something vitally important to the success of world peace this very morning so you must eat the crackers we have in the car and drink water from the fountain at school. As soon as I drop you off, I’m racing home to re-do the entire house, cook meals for the neighborhood and create a non-profit organization supporting some worthwhile cause I’ll figure out on the way home. Come on…hurry!”
One hundred deep breaths and two episodes of biting the kids head off later, I got breakfast for my kids. I even returned to the school after dropping them off with candy for the 4th period valentine’s party girlie forgot about. I started dinner and then took time to have a lunch date with my hubby. On the way to meet him, I thought about the pressure moms (and dads) place on themselves every single day. It’s silly but it’s real and it can be debilitating if left untreated. But that’s where humor and the Word come in.
I laughed at myself and my latest episode of mother-of-the-year-itis. I felt great about my world until someone unintentionally made me feel like I hadn’t done enough or hadn’t been as productive and effective as I should have been. It was really kinda funny when the sting and tension wore off. If we do the best we can every day to provide for our families, then we’ve done enough. And if we put God first each day, He said he would help us with everything else. I often think about the story of Mary and Martha in the book of Luke. When Martha was scurrying about busy with chores and Mary was simply at the feet of Jesus, Jesus said Mary was the one who understood what was important. So being still and quiet in the presence of God is more important that anything else. And if I seek Him first, He will help me prioritize everything else. Letting Him help me organize my day is far more important than seeing how many projects I can accomplish in one day. Doing that may mean I miss the one thing that He wants me to do. That sounds a whole lot better than setting the world record for the most laundry done in a day!
At the Home of Martha and Mary
38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”
41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one.[a] Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
Luke 10:38-42 (NIV)
14 thoughts on “The Day Started Well, And Then…”
You have no idea how very much I needed this post this morning! God must have prompted you to write this just for me! I, too, had a moment of “You’re the best mom/wife moment” in my own head last night after going through much effort to set a decorative table & cook a yummy Valentine’s dinner for my family when I should have been cleaning, packing & finishing final projects for a conference I’m leaving for today (and am STILL not ready for). April, I LOVE your sense of humor & how you always tie it back to the word of God! Thank you my friend for taking the time to journal your story (just for me). 🙂
I’m so glad this touched you! Thank you for your sweet comments!
Hey April… NO AN DEN!
I run into this a lot. And don’t forget my favorite all time question: “what do you do for a living?” Depending on my mood I sometimes reply “EVERYTHING, I just don’t get paid for it” This was a good one today & I really needed to hear it. keep them coming:)
Ah, Thank you. I love your reply – “Everything!” … that is so true.
I’m in the same boat. After our family moved 18 months ago, I did not look for a job, wanting to help everyone make the transition. Now both kids are in school but I have found that I really enjoy being at home. I am looking for a job that will fit around my family life but not take every bit of my time and energy. Clean houses are overrated. 🙂
I can absolutely relate. Balance is so important. 🙂
April, I love this post. Of course, they’re all good but I could do relate to this one. Always busy and feeling that it’s never enough. Thanks for your awesome stories. Please keep them coming.
Thank you! I have always been guilty of lying down at night and critiquing my day. But I’m working on that!
Tired is my middle name. I’m also confused about what day it is. 🙂 Sunday night I took my grown son to the emergency room for a kidney stone attack and the rest of the week is a blue. No writing done. Had three hours of sleep Wednesday night, stumbled through yesterday. Took my son home from the hospital yesterday because his wife had to work. Last night I managed to post a blog I had planned. My son’s kidney stone could not be removed. Doc had to stop….whill try in 10 days to 2 weeks. He’s hurting this morning….I ran and got some medicine for spasms. My house is a mess. I did do dishes and take out the dog….and brought her back in. 🙂 Now, if I can collect my thoughts, I will write until I have to go pick up my grandson at school. Then supper…………No, I don’t work outside the home, anymore. I WANT TO GET A BOOK PUBLISHED! Thanks for your post….see, I’ve almost written a book right here on your comments. I knew I was a writer!
Oh my goodness! I can relate to the kidney stone incident. I have had nine! They are horrible. Hope he is feeling better. Good luck with your book. I am working toward the same goal. 🙂
I meant that the rest of the week was a blur…..not a blue. Did I tell you I was tired? Ha.